Effecting change in your relationship is hard, but therapy can help. 

Experiencing problems within your intimate relationship can be very isolating and can take you further away from the one you love the most. Making the decision to work on your relationship may be the most important thing you ever do.  

When I work with relationships, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, known as EFT. This way of working will allow each of you to share openly so you can give and get the love you need. For couples who experience the pain that is inherent in constant conflict, I will assist each of you in finding your way back to connection.

I am passionate about working with conflictual couples who desperately want to get along better. If you've been experiencing conflict in your relationship for years, it is possible to shift those patterns. This work can take longer due to the entrenched patterning that has formed over years of hitting the same painful spot over and over again. For couples who have been experiencing painful patterns for years, the process will typically take 6 months to 2 years. 

I treat relationships of all orientations through a sex positive perspective. I am LGBTQI, gender and poly affirming. 

More about EFT and the process of therapy

EFT assumes that interdependence is not only healthy, but essential in loving relationships. When our love is threatened, it is as if we are in actual physical danger. When we feel threatened, we develop strategies that protect us from threat. These strategies often become repetitive and we end up getting into the same fights over and over again. Sound familiar?

EFT will help you identify the pattern of interacting in your loving bond and will show how these strategies make a lot of sense given the fear that is present when bonds are threatened. Once the pattern is identified and de-escalation is possible, you will practice sharing unacknowledged emotions and fears that accompany your behavior in the pattern. The de-escalation stage of therapy is the longest and the most challenging. If you've been hurt over and over again in the same ways within your relationship, your interactional pattern may be pretty stuck. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. EFT is an evidence based model that is very effective in treating stuck patterns! 


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